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<\/a>And yet when I informed him we were spending Valentine\u2019s Day at the Grossmont Center theaters watching \u201cFifty Shades of Grey,\u201d his reaction was anything but supportive.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat?! We\u2019re not going to that movie!\u201d he said, shaking his head in front of several of our friends.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhy not?\u201d asked a fellow husband whose wife had also announced their V-Day would be \u201cGrey.\u201d \u201cWhat\u2019s up with that film?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYeah, Derek. What\u2019s up with that film?\u201d I asked.<\/p>\n
\u201cUh, let me think now,\u201d he said. \u201cCould it be that the main guy basically debases the girl? Why would I want to watch that?\u201d<\/p>\n
I was stunned. First of all, I was impressed that he was actually listening when I told him about the book. (Spoiler warning \u2014 for those of you who have avoided any and all things Grey, the male love interest is interested in bondage among other rougher bedroom activities.) At the time of our discussion, he had a blank look on his face as he glanced up briefly from his favorite game on his iPhone. Who knew?<\/p>\n
Second, I was pleased that Derek did not think hurting another person was at all sexy, erotic or sensual. While many of us may take it for granted, it never hurts to hear your partner confirm his disinterest in BDSM.<\/p>\n
Just as I began to give him mental kudos, our friend asked how the character debased the woman.<\/p>\n
\u201cWell, he ties her up and throws poop at her,\u201d Derek answered matter-of-factly.<\/p>\n
Wait. What?!<\/p>\n
\u201cReally. He throws poop at her,\u201d he repeated.<\/p>\n
I peered closely at Derek as he stared defiantly back at me. I realized he was lying on purpose to make the film seem more horrible than it could be.<\/p>\n
\u201cLook, he may as well throw poop at her!\u201d he said. \u201cHe\u2019s not exactly a nice person, right? If you love someone you wouldn\u2019t want to hurt them, right?\u201d<\/p>\n
OK, he had me there. I wouldn\u2019t describe Christian Grey as \u201cnice.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cErgo, he throws poop.\u201d<\/p>\n
Although Derek\u2019s logic was clearly flawed, I admit I am finding it difficult to maintain my resolve to see the film. Truth be told, I want to see the film for the train wreck I assume it will be. Even more entertaining would be seeing the lines of hapless guys forced to watch \u201cFifty Shades of Grey\u201d with their significant others.<\/p>\n
Whatever the case, we won\u2019t be in the theater on Valentine\u2019s Day. Part of having a great partner is being a great partner, and not forcing Derek to watch Christian and Anastasia on the big screen may just be the greatest gift of all.<\/p>\n